Pain is necessary or so they say. They say pain and hurt inspire growth ( "They" seem to know everything, huh ). I agree with both of those statements but what I don't understand is why people inflict or bring pain upon themselves. Maybe thats where that phrase "a glutton for punishment" comes from. I watch people in my life, heck even myself from time to time put themselves through some ugly and awful shit that could totally be avoided or is just un warrented and unnessecary.
I ask myself is it self worth or lack of that makes people hurt themselves and cause that pain in thier lives? To me it seems alot of people, I mean alot are just not happy unless they are miserable. I hesitate to ask certin people sometimes "How you doing?" cause I just dont wanna hear them go on and on about how shitty thier lives are. I feel bad when I hear them telling me but I hear no solutions or effort or hope on things getting better. I hear them out in hope that I can say something or empathize with them to make them feel better, cause I know thats what I would wanna hear.
I think alot of people just hit a rough patch in thier lives and have a hard time or don't have the skills to get outta it. Then that situation or problem becomes a way of life because it snowballs because they have no solution or don't mentally know how to resolve it. I get it, not everything can be remedied or solved overnight but asking for help and looking for a resolution are small starting poiunts that we can take. I still belive people wanna help each other no matter how big or small the problem is, but I think the hard part is initially admitting you have a problem then asking for that help or seeking out a solution is where people get stuck and hence the snowball and more drama.
Pain is a cause and effect emotion, it needs to be fed. Hurt just feels natural in weird kinda way. I never understood that saying "It hurts so good" but I do now. It becomes comfortable to be miserable. Misery loves company and we love bringing along for the trip , the more the miserable. Being happy takes effort, it means having to look and seek out and create that emotion alot of the time. Nothing good comes easy. People with pain mask that pain with drugs, alcohol, food and abusive behaviors to achive happiness, it's instant gratifaction with no effort. Unfortunatly it comes with a price, destruction and all that goes with it!
We all have problems, nobodys perfect. I've always thought that our flaws define us and give us character and make us strive to be better people. One of my favorite sayings is " I am made up entirely of flaws but sewn together with good intensions" It means I'm not perfect but I keep trying to be happy! Pain can be delt with, it has too otherwise we spin into a spiral of misery which can be overwelming to get out of. If you know someone in pain or suffering endlessly, lend a simpathetic ear or hand, show some empathy, let them know hope and love is there
